Have you ever had a conversation with someone who has, and sorry to gross you out, verbal diarrhea? They just talk and talk, and they’ve made so many other points so many times that now you’ve lost their original message? These are the people that are often so long-winded that they leave you yearning to exit the conversation.
If you are this person I only have one thing to say, if you are talking you’re not listening! When you are constantly monopolizing conversations you aren’t leaving any room for your co-workers to share their ideas or opinions. Each time you dominate the empty air with a convoluted message, you push others away because they assume that you’re not saying anything of value.
Did you know that in 2000 the average attention span was only 12 seconds and has since fallen to eight? The average goldfish has a longer attention span coming in at a whopping nine seconds (Independent). When you’re halfway through one of your speeches, do you think anyone is still listening?
The average person stops listening attentively after 20 seconds, and actively tunes out after 40 seconds if the conversation has gone off topic.
An easy way to make sure you’re getting your point across is to make sure that you are able to get around to your message in less than 20 seconds. Everyone has heard of an elevator speech, you should start operating under the 20-second rule in each one of your conversations. Get your point across succinctly.
We’ve all been guilty of over-chatting or rambling at some point, but it can be a deadly habit in recruiting. If you need practice getting to the point, get yourself a Twitter account. This may sound silly, but if you can’t get it out in less than 140 characters, then maybe it’s not that important.
If you ever need any advice on how to slow down your speeches, feel free to tweet me for advice at @RebeccaSargeant.
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