Feelings can’t be trusted. A few years ago, I read that on the reception area wall of a recruiting firm I didn’t want to work for. When you are a recruiter, feelings can’t be trusted but they can get the best of you and take you for a road trip you do not want to be on quite frequently.
I knew the Recruiting Coach from various recruiting “things.” I would find myself saying, “amen”, to most comments she made. I think most of us recruiting types enjoy working with like-minded recruiters. We are slow to trust, so we use like-mindedness as a baseline for a relationship.
My calls to Rebecca have increased over the last 12 months. If I dissected those calls, and I do, I found that I felt better after them. Sure I would call to vent and complain.. and bitch – but I was looking for solutions. The solution was not feeling better – although that helped. The solution needed to be real and tangible. You know the solution is going to be metrics – of some kind. I knew that.
When I worked for an “agency,” I think my feelings didn’t really get in the way. I had to appear professional in my workplace – internal responses could not translate to external responses. I would have been fired for destroying property or at least tripped over when I was in the fetal position in my cubicle quad. Okay, It was really never that bad but I was always surprised when my phone didn’t crack from an occasional slamming.
On our week 1 Official (meaning paid) Coaching Call, we discussed the metrics I am going to measure – the real stuff. She wants me to track two things. I can handle two. We also discussed where feelings enter the landscape. We discussed a beautiful metaphor, I was surprised I had never heard before, for managing my day – especially the first few hours.
Sure, feelings can’t be trusted neither can willpower be relied upon to reverse course. A bad day is often times more than jut a day. I can’t have that, you can’t have that – we can’t afford it. When I become my feelings, I need to come to the end of myself – now. It takes someone besides yourself to do that, Recruiter.